Childfree Expert on the Katie Couric Show

Dr. Amy Blackstone appeared on The Katie show to discuss empirical research on the childfree

Dr. Amy Blackstone appeared on The Katie show to discuss empirical research on the childfree

My wife Amy… Ahem. Starting over.

Dr. Amy Blackstone Ph.D. of the University of Maine, chair of the sociology department, and all around sociologist extraordinaire appeared on the Katie Couric show to provide research-backed information on the topic. 

Childfree by Choice on Katie

The show is chopped up into 3 segments and links are provided below. Amy is in segment 3.  Enjoy!

Disclaimer – link names are courtesy of Katie, not us. 

Segment 1: Why More Couples are Choosing to Be Childfree

Segment 2: The Battle Between Childfree Couples & Parents

Segment 3 (Amy): Is There a “Mom Gene”?

25 Responses to Childfree Expert on the Katie Couric Show

  1. bonniefide April 15, 2015 at 12:02 am #

    The video links don’t work anymore! Can’t seem to find them on youtube either. Anyone know if they are out there somewhere?

    • Amy April 17, 2015 at 7:05 am #

      Thank you for letting us know! We’re looking to see if we can find a working link. More as soon as we find one!

  2. Denise Monzone January 20, 2014 at 4:46 pm #

    Hi Dr Blackstone. I am a nurse and experiencing some unfortunate family issues. During my studies in Maternity, Women’s Health and/or peds, I recall hearing that there was a term used for women who have children not to nurture but to have as a possession. Are you familiar or is it possible for you to tell me what that term is?

    • Amy January 20, 2014 at 5:29 pm #

      Hi Denise, Many thanks for checking out our blog. I’m afraid I’m not familiar with the phenomenon you describe. Sorry I can’t be of more help.
      Amy

  3. KidfreeKaye September 24, 2013 at 9:34 pm #

    I felt the SAME WAY when I heard both the question and the answer. I went “uh-oh.” Why does it have to be a weakness that makes us not want kids? I actually had a great childhood and good parents, am very smart and well-educated, and have a very happy and fulfilling life! I just don’t think being a mother would make me happier than I am now.

  4. ChildfreeNYC September 21, 2013 at 4:59 pm #

    Amy, you did such a great job on the show. I am sad that it was edited down so much. It was awesome meeting you in the green room!

  5. L S September 20, 2013 at 11:51 pm #

    All I can see is that people need to realize the rates of infertility are higher than ever.Unfortunately I don’t have children because I can’t.I constantly get asked why don’t I have any children when I’m by myself or out with my husband,we always get asked about children.People need to realize for some it is a very painful subject and not everyone gets the choice and I don’t have $20,000 to adopt.

    • Marcia Drut-Davis September 21, 2013 at 12:14 pm #

      I feel for your suffering. In my opinion, a lot of that comes from pronatalism which makes you feel “less than”. You can opt to be “childfree” removing yourselves from being a victim of infertility to more control and opening your life to a wonderful childfree lifestyle.You can “mother” and father” in many other wonderfully rewarding ways too.

      • Lance September 21, 2013 at 12:20 pm #

        Well said

        • Marcia Drut-Davis September 27, 2013 at 10:48 am #

          AW…..Thanks Lance! AFter all the years i’ve lived on this planet, subjected to so much ignorance, I hope to be able to say the right things. I don’t want to be “right”. I just want to give people the right tools to think and validate their own choices.

    • kristentsetsi September 26, 2013 at 7:40 am #

      LS,
      I think people do realize it’s incredibly difficult for people who want children and can’t have any of their own. And you have my sympathy, truly. (I understand adoption isn’t the same, fostering isn’t the same, and mentoring isn’t the same. But I hope you do find a way to be a positive influence in the life of a child, because it seems like you want to be.)

      That said, that’s a different conversation, and people who don’t want children shouldn’t necessarily have to be quiet about their decision out of fear of hurting the feelings of someone who can’t have them. There are many different positions that could benefit from greater understanding, and that women shouldn’t be made to feel like having children is the “natural course” is one of them.
      – Kristen

      • Marcia Drut-Davis September 29, 2013 at 11:47 am #

        I never tried to have a child so I can’t speak about infertility the same way you can. However, I do recommend reading, “The Baby Matrix” by Laura Carroll. She really sheds light on pronatalism and why infertility may come to many as suffering. That being said, I have never walked in your shoes and my heart goes out to you.

        • kristentsetsi September 29, 2013 at 1:13 pm #

          (That comment wasn’t directed at me, right? I don’t have infertility issues. I don’t think…never checked. Just want to clarify.)

          • Marcia Drut-Davis September 30, 2013 at 9:39 am #

            Ooops! CAn’t see why I said your name. So sorry if I made an error.

  6. tattooeddarling20 September 20, 2013 at 3:26 pm #

    Does anyone else find it really frustrating when people are like, “I’m glad some people recognize they don’t want children because too many people have kids who shouldn’t?” Um, thanks. I’m childfree, not Casey Anthony.

    • Rachelle September 21, 2013 at 11:50 am #

      AGREED!

    • ChildfreeNYC September 21, 2013 at 4:58 pm #

      Yes! I feel that way. I don’t need to be told that I SHOULD not have kids, especially given that I’ve just told you that I don’t want them. I think that, for some people, it’s a way to feel superior and regaining the control in their own head after someone else has challenged their idea of what is “normal.”

      • Marcia Drut-Davis September 27, 2013 at 10:55 am #

        I was interviewed on a NYC radio show with Dr. Duffy Spencer. It’s called “Just Relationships” on WHPC 90.3 FM. I speak to a lot of what I see above. It was an hour long interview! I feel like 5’9″ when I’m 5’0″ and shrinking as I type this. It can be heard on I-tunes next week at “Just relationships.ncc.edu/whpc. (I think!)When will I ever learn all these things on the net?

        • Lance September 27, 2013 at 12:14 pm #

          Let us know when the program is available and we’ll re-post!

    • kristentsetsi September 29, 2013 at 1:15 pm #

      When I was being interviewed about this recently on a local station, the anchor said almost exactly that. Basically, “It’s better that people who know they wouldn’t be good parents don’t have children.”

      I told her I thought I’d be a fantastic parent – I just didn’t want to. (Like many childfree people.)

      • Marcia Drut-Davis September 30, 2013 at 9:44 am #

        Your reaction is totally understood. Ignorant people brainwashed by pronatalism assume those who don’t want kids, hate kids. That misperception cost me my job as a dedicated, passionate teacher after my interview on 60 Minutes. Of course, there are some who shouldn’t have children. And the majority of us are loving, caring and responsible people. Many of us give to other’s children through their careers. Many of us are caring aunts and uncles in our families. Many of us have a safe place for neighbors kids to visit.

  7. Lelaina Landis (@LiaLiaBoBia) September 20, 2013 at 1:24 pm #

    Amy, wow! It’s so great to see you “in person.” I’m glad that we’re finally having this discourse, and even though television presenters still don’t seem to “get” our demographic, at least their open to trying to get to know us a little better.

    You’re an awesome ambassador for the CF, BTW. So poised and articulate. Awesome! 😀

  8. Sylvia D. Lucas September 20, 2013 at 9:18 am #

    Segment #3 with Amy: Great! Segment #2: So many things about this segment I found frustrating. 1. “What’s behind your decision?” implies something “happened” to “make her this way.” 2. Having children, putting a new person out into a community, is not necessarily a service to the community. Depending on the child, the addition can be a boon to the community or it can be a burden or make no difference whatsoever. “I had a baby” does not equal “I did something good for the world.” 3. Young childfree woman (forgivably, but still creates troubling message) says “I don’t know how mothers do it, they give everything (in this monumental task of motherhood),” as if to say, “I could never do that. They’re so selfless and dedicated.” But they’re doing the absolute least that should be expected of anyone who chooses to have a child; it’s not noble, it’s the logical course after giving birth.

  9. Sylvia D. Lucas September 20, 2013 at 8:48 am #

    Ugh, killer question (and answer) in segment #1, when Katie asks the younger couple “What’s behind [your decision to not have children]?” Answer: “I come from a broken home…”

    Que, “Oh, so THAT’S why you’re messed up!”

    Ask someone why they had children, and you’re just as likely to get the same answer (followed by “I wanted to have kids and do it right”), but the response is then a simple nod, an “Oh, of course!”

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