Childless and Happy? – from MORNINGS, Nine Network Australia

Kate Spicer

Kate Spicer says she is now 44 and full of regret because she isn’t a mother

This interview is borderline comedic. Ok, it’s actually full-on comedic.

For those that missed it, the original article written by Kate Spicer for Mail Online (UK) is titled ‘Any woman who says she’s happy to be childless is a liar or a fool‘ and is subtitled  “Take it from a woman who’s given up her dreams of motherhood at 44”  Pretty inflammatory but what you expect from this media outlet.

Childless and Happy?

If you read the article and listen to Ms. Spicer in the video, ignoring her inconsistencies, you will find that the root issue is this:

Kate Spicer forgot to have kids.

Now, of course, she regrets it. She blames society and her college and everyone but herself for this, but there it is.

She’s childless, not childfree.

Childfree & Happy!

What she fails to grasp is that being truly childfree, as opposed to childless, means that you have made the decision not to have children, weighing the pros and cons of your individual situation. This is a not subtle difference lost on Ms. Spicer. She allowed time and circumstance to make the decision for her.

To me a fundamental part of the childfree discussion is the idea of actively making the choice to bring or not bring children into the world. I’m sorry that Ms. Spicer didn’t get the memo.

3 Responses to Childless and Happy? – from MORNINGS, Nine Network Australia

  1. Jenny Lukadakis (@lukadakis) August 26, 2013 at 3:06 pm #

    Rock on, sister. There is a huge difference between childfree and childless. Have you read We Need to Talk About Kevin? Just a lovely little story about how parenting can go wrong. It sounds like this lady had “grass is greener” syndrome.

    • Cat August 27, 2013 at 8:12 am #

      No, but the film was at my local arthouse cinema last year. I heard a lot of comments today at work about how kids can be hard, and one lady with adult kids mentioned to another, who has kids, that she reckons it gets harder as they get older.

      Pass me a cat please.

  2. Cat August 23, 2013 at 6:42 am #

    Just the title of that article is making my blood boil. And she says she’s not alone in being childless. Yes, but a lot of those women without children are actually childfree; happy without them.

    Her telling the intern she is mad was a put down and a bingo, implying the intern doesn’t know her own mind. Her life is empty because she hasn’t found anything to fill it, doesn’t mean the intern is going to be unhappy with her life.

    ‘As a rule, flawed as all parties may be, the parent-child bond is the commonest and most reliable form of that love.’ Ah, no. I have heard many kids tell their parents that they hate them and don’t love them anymore, and what about those kids who grow up in unhappy homes?

    And smile more, woman! You look like you could do with a bit of sunshine.

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